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I have a problem....

Posted on: May 29, 2008 11:52 am

So, I need some advice. here 's the issue.

Last season, I took a trip to Boston to see my old military buddy (that's code for, yes we dated back in the day) who lives there and is a Pats fan.  Well, being of the football conscious mind, I planned my trip right when the skins played the Pats and we went to the game.  Now, you remember this was right off the heels of spygate and the Pats were murdering every team they played.  Not as bad as they murdered us of course, worst game I had ever been to. There I am with 10 min left in the 4th quarter and I am just disgusted. Score 52-7 maybe? I started yelling go "Rockies" as it was Game 4 of the world series with the Red Sox sweeping. I know, pathetic right?

Anyone that's ever been to that stadium, I nicknamed it the Razor, knows you have to walk two miles to the parking lots, so my #28 Darrell Green jersey was getting lots of attention.  I am just done with this city and it's fans. Get my mental state yet?  Ok, well after coming home and our season ending in the playoffs, I found myself rooting against those pats every week. Willing them to lose, end of the perfecto.

So, my buddy that I stayed with, we would trade text messages after sundays, harmless right? Well, after the superbowl debacle and his team lost, I couldn't resist picking up the phone and leaving him the drunk, I am so glad your team lost,( next morning wish I could take this back) message.  Was it obnoxious? yes. Was it unsolicited? yes. Did I have to leave it? absolutely.

Bottom line, he won't talk to me anymore.  This is someone I have been friends with for 20 years. I have called, left messages, texts, emails, nothing. I did call him that next day and apologize for my rudeness.  That was four months ago. What should I do? leave him alone, he'll come around? if he doesn't , oh well?





Category: NFL

Since: Oct 16, 2010
Posted on: June 1, 2011 10:12 am

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I gotta tell ya, If this guy actually rates football over a relationship, especially one thats been in tact for as long as you stated, he isn't and never was worth the dirt he walked on ! Sorry Gal, some people just don't get it, some people just don't realize the importance of a best friend and how good friends are few and between. If you let him back into your life there will always be that stigma there and things will never be the same, on the the other side of the coin, I'm available !!! lol

Since: Jun 26, 2008
Posted on: July 28, 2008 10:29 am

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Good to hear that he has contacted you.  Always be true to yourself and be who you are.   Don't change for anyone!

Since: Jan 23, 2008
Posted on: July 25, 2008 11:08 pm

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You dont have a problem, your friend does! The great thing about being a sports fan is you cheer hard for your team and rag even harder on the other team knowing full well you respect their talents. So when theteam a friend cheers for looses it is your duty to ride them and ride them hard after all they are your friend so they should know its all in good fun.

My friends and I have been calling each other long distance, long before cell phones, just to rag on each others sorry teams. If we didnt then some body would think we were mad at them. Friends should know its LOVE!

Any woman that passionent about sports is all right in my book. I am a Bears fan and feel free to clown me anytime!

Since: Oct 19, 2007
Posted on: July 11, 2008 10:59 pm

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That is good news skinsgal, and don't feel like you raised a false distress flag.  It sure looked like he was cutting ties.  There are no friends like old friends.  It says a lot about your relationship that you were comfortable sending him this blog.  lol

Very sharp of you to do everything you can to preserve a relationship with the opposite sex.  Keeping touch with a boyfriend in your case (or girlfriend in mine) with potential benefits down the road is priceless.   

Since: Mar 31, 2007
Posted on: July 11, 2008 2:27 pm

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Just a quick update for those who were interested...he finally did email me back and said he wasn't mad anymore BUT thought really childish of me to leave the message.  Ok, what's done is done and we are back to what we were.

I sent him the link to this blog in my reply email so he could read it.

I think I have learned a good lesson here...sometimes I can put football on the front burner and others don't see it the same way.  I still can't bring myself to root for my boyfriends team (eagles) even though he will root for washington unless we play them. Baby steps, baby steps.

Thanks for all that wrote in! :-)


PS. Is it football season yet?????? lol

Since: Jun 26, 2008
Posted on: July 10, 2008 8:53 am

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I would have to agree with a lot of the posters on this one, LET IT GO! If he can't get over it, then he wasn't that great of a friend. I lived up there for 1 year (I am in the Army) and the fans are beyond nuts when it comes to their teams.  To them Belichick is a saint! 

I think you are a pretty fun-loving person and I hope you don't change.  If a fan can't take the ribbing, then they are wrapped way-too-tight and way too serious!



Since: Feb 8, 2008
Posted on: July 9, 2008 1:24 pm

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I have a female friend who is from Boston.  When the Patriots got beat in the Super Bowl, my roomate (who is a Giants fan unfortunately) and I would rip on her relentlessly.  Everytime we saw her for a week or so we would fake choke, and one drunken night we made a cake and put 18-1 in m&m's on it and sent her a picture of it on the phone.  Sure she was annoyed, but she was a real good sport about it, and eventually the teasing stopped.  It's also not like she wasn't a little cocky about it either, during the whole season she would make snide remarks about how good the Patriots are and how they were perfect.  But it was all for the sake of fun and she remains one of my closest friends, and the thought that a trivial sporting event would change that never even entered my mind until I read your article.

I know people from New England are disgustingly obsessive about their sports teams, and I understand that having so much faith and so much interest invested in a team who ended up being the victims of one of the biggest upsets in sports history has to be traumatizing.  But still, life relationships are far more important then the results of a game played by 55 men who your friend will never meet.  I say let bygones be bygones (or whatever the saying is) if he contacts you and wants to mend ties.  Just make sure you keep knocking on him for it and let him know that it is just a game.

Since: Jan 9, 2008
Posted on: July 9, 2008 12:23 pm

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Hi Skinsgal -

That's a pretty petty reason for not responding to your calls - would you really want him if that's how he deals with a "crisis?"

I agree with Jelly - if he's not calling  you back there's a reason.

I'm sure you are a beautiful woman - let him go - there are tons of available, gorgeous guys out there who I'm sure would love your company.

Since: Mar 24, 2008
Posted on: June 10, 2008 2:06 pm

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I agree with the majority of people that responded.....It's a game, he'll eventually get over it. Twenty years is too long to throw away over a game that means little in the grand scheme of things.

Good luck

Since: Nov 30, 2007
Posted on: June 4, 2008 3:46 pm

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his loss


that sounds funny

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